The Power of Prayer in Choosing a Partner

One of the most important decisions you’ll ever make, perhaps the most important, is choosing who you marry. I wish I had understood that when I was younger. Your partner profoundly shapes your life, your well-being, and your ability to navigate challenges. The right relationship can help you thrive while the wrong one can leave you depleted.

Pray Before You Date

Given the weight of this choice, it’s essential to be intentional about who you date. Before entering a relationship and especially before marriage… PRAY. Ask God for discernment. Seek clarity about whether this is the person God has chosen for you. That simple act of surrender can save you years of heartache.

I ended a long-term relationship with my first boyfriend after realizing it had no future. One Sunday in church, I felt a confirmation: he wasn’t the one I was meant to marry. But when I began dating my now ex-husband, I don’t remember praying about it. I overlooked red flags like his anger issues, financial irresponsibility, broken promises, and the way my feelings were often dismissed. I made a poor decision. Had I asked God for guidance and the courage to listen, I wouldn’t have continued dating him, let alone married him. I wonder how different things might have been if I had simply prayed.

A Valuable Lesson

Though I stayed in that relationship longer than I should have, I’m grateful that God brought me through it. I learned a valuable lesson: seek God and His divine wisdom. 

After my divorce, I wasn’t sure I wanted to marry again. Still, I prayed, asking God to bring me the partner He had chosen for me. Someone aligned with His purpose for my life. A divine match. Then I reconnected with Alex at a funeral, 21 years after we first met at a wedding. 

From the beginning of our relationship to our wedding day, I prayed, seeking God’s guidance. When I asked God to confirm that Alex was the one for me and the courage to walk away if he wasn’t, I felt at peace. The difference between my first marriage and this one is night and day. I am truly blessed and grateful for my husband Alex, my divine match and answered prayer.